16 Best Etiquette Books

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What is Etiquette?

Etiquette refers to the set of rules that govern socially acceptable behavior. Etiquette is often unspoken, and you may not realize you’re breaking etiquette until someone points it out to you.

There are different types of etiquette, including:

– Business etiquette

– Dining etiquette

– Email etiquette

– Party etiquette

Why is Etiquette Important?

Etiquette is important because it helps you to make a good impression on people. Good manners show that you’re polite and considerate, and can make people more likely to want to do business with you or be your friend.

If you’re not sure what the etiquette is in a particular situation, it’s always best to err on the side of caution and be more formal than less.

What are the Best Etiquette Books?

If you want to brush up on your etiquette, there are plenty of great books to choose from. Here are some:

Best Etiquette Books

50 Essential Etiquette Lessons: by Katherine Flannery

Stay cool in any situation with this modern manners guide.

Meeting strangers at a party, alone in the elevator with the CEO, declining a second date because the first was a disaster―social situations apply a lot of pressure to do and say the right thing. 50 Essential Etiquette Lessons shows you the best way to approach these common challenges with confidence and ease. Never mind putting your pinkies up when you drink tea―this guide is packed with modern examples of how to handle any sticky situation.

Short, easy lessons cover workplace etiquette, to help you come across as an on-point, put-together asset to any company. Learn specific strategies for performing your best in social settings, both in person and online. Master skills like keeping conversation going, showing your best side on social media, giving gifts appropriately, and more.

The Guy's Guide to God, Girls, and the Phone in Your Pocket: by Jonathan McKee

Spiritual, Practical, Real-Life Advice with a Twist of Humor

The Guy’s Guide will encourage your faith, challenge you spiritually, and give you real-life advice how to live out your faith in today’s highly secularized culture, with distractions lurking around every corner. . .and just a click away.

101 real-life tips including. . .

  • Today’s nerd is tomorrow’s boss.
  • If you have to look over your shoulder to check if anyone’s in the room, you probably shouldn’t be typing it into the search engine.
  • Learn a skill that would help you survive a zombie apocalypse.
  • Losing your temper feels really good. . .for about 17 seconds. Keeping your cool feels even better. . .for the rest of the week.
  • Realize most bad choices usually began five choices ago.
  • If you have a TV in your bedroom, unplug it right now and move it to another room.

. . .and dozens more helpful hints provide spiritual, practical, and even humorous advice for navigating the challenges of your teen years with confidence and wisdom.

Respect - The Best Me That I Can Be by Rose Angebrandt and Henrique Rampazzo

Keigan made a BIG MISTAKE!

What does RESPECT mean? It’s not just what you SAY but what you DO

Parents and Siblings can be super cool! Teachers at School can be awesome! Friends can be so much fun to laugh and play with

What happens when you forget to show them Respect

Follow Keigan as he learns that Respect is BIG! Sometimes you have to turn a WRONG into a RIGHT! THAT is showing RESPECT

Respect is the third book in the The Best ME That I Can Be series of Books by Rose Angebrandt

How Not to Be a Dick: An Everyday Etiquette Guide by Meghan Doherty

On the one hand, nobody wants to be a dick. On the other hand, dicks are everywhere! They cut in line, talk behind our backs, recline into our seats, and even have the power to morph into trolls online. Their powers are impressive, but with a little foresight and thoughtfulness, we can take a stand against dickishness today. How Not to Be a Dick is packed with honest and straightforward advice, but it also includes playful illustrations showing two well-meaning (but not always well behaved) young people as they confront moments of potential dickishness in their everyday lives. Sometimes they falter, sometimes they triumph, but they always seek to find a better way. And with their help, you can too.

The Official Downton Abbey Afternoon Tea Cookbook: Teatime Drinks, Scones, Savories & Sweets (Downton Abbey Cookery) by Downton Abbey

Afternoon tea is a revered and treasured English tradition—and no one knows better how to prepare and enjoy a proper tea than the residents of Downton Abbey. With this alluring and vibrant cookbook, fans of the PBS series and anglophiles alike can stage every stylish element of this cultural staple of British society at home. Spanning sweet and savory classics—like Battenberg Cake, Bakewell Tart, toffee puddings, cream scones, and tea sandwiches—the recipes capture the quintessential delicacies of the time, and the proper way to serve them.

This charming cookbook also features a detailed narrative history and extols the proper decorum for teatime service, from tea gowns and tearooms to preparing and serving tea. Gorgeous food photographs, lifestyle stills from the television series and recent movie, and character quotes bring the characters of Downton Abbey—and this rich tradition—to life in contemporary times.


Emily Post's Etiquette, 19th Edition: Manners for Today (Emily's Post's Etiquette) by Lizzie Post and Daniel Post Senning

Completely revised and updated with a focus on civility and inclusion, the 19th edition of Emily Post’s Etiquette is the most trusted resource for navigating life’s every situation

From social networking to social graces, Emily Post is the definitive source on etiquette for generations of Americans. That tradition continues with the fully revised and updated 19th edition of Etiquette. Authored by etiquette experts Lizzie Post and Daniel Post Senning—Emily Post’s great-great grandchildren—this edition tackles classic etiquette and manners advice with an eye toward diversity and the contemporary sensibility that etiquette is defined by consideration, respect, and honesty.

Anger Management Workbook for Kids: 50 Fun Activities to Help Children Stay Calm and Make Better Choices When They Feel Mad by Samantha Snowden MA and Andrew Hill PhD

Anger is a normal emotion just like joy, sadness, and fear, but it can be difficult to know how to express those feelings in a good way. The Anger Management Workbook for Kids is filled with 50 playful exercises to help you handle powerful emotions. You can stay calm and make better choices when you feel angry. Other workbooks about anger management for kids ages 6-12 wish they could be this fun!

Discover ways to recognize angry feelings and react to them safely, so you can be nice to yourself and others. Draw a picture of what your anger looks like, write about your feelings and needs in different situations, and more. These awesome activities will give you the tools to manage your feelings through gratitude, friendliness, and self-kindness.

English Etiquette: The Motivation Behind the Manners by The Darling Academy and Alena Kate Pettitt

How to be really very nice indeed, just like the English! Learn the ins and outs of British behaviour, how to dress like a lady or a gentleman, and why the use of the correct fork really isn’t the be all and end all of good manners, despite what others would have you believe.

From the back cover:

This is not another etiquette book detailing the antiquated, excruciating, and frankly confusing minefield of rules lauded by traditionalists. Let’s face it, many of us will never need to know which side a snail fork should be placed at the dinner table, nor are we likely to ‘take tea’ with the Queen. Yet we could all do with a little help in perfecting our manners, self-confidence, and social graces for everyday living.

English Etiquette details everything the English know about why etiquette matters, in a modern, understandable, and unpretentious way – while teaching you how to cultivate a traditional and charming countenance to rival any royal.

Covering topics such as gallantry and grace, common decency, lifestyle choices, the quintessential English wardrobe, and behaviour in the home, you will learn how to shoehorn a little English gentility from this practical field guide into your daily life.

Modern Etiquette Made Easy: A Five-Step Method to Mastering Etiquette by Myka Meier

In her debut book, Modern Etiquette Made Easy, the Queen of Good Manners Myka Meier takes formal etiquette that she learned while training under a former member of the Queen of England’s household and breaks it down into five easy steps to help you feel 100 percent confident in the areas of social, dining, business, and networking etiquette.
In this refreshingly entertaining etiquette guide, Myka combines her passion for etiquette and love of humor to share tips that are sure to give you a competitive edge in both your social and professional life. Through easy-to-follow chapters and relatable lessons, you’ll learn how to: 

  • Create the best first impression
  • Become the most coveted party guest
  • Network like a pro
  • Practice good table manners
  • And much, much more!

Etiquettes and Manners Plain and Simple: Successful Tips for Successful People: Best Practices for Boys, Girls, and Future Leaders by Jackie F Whitehead Edd

First impressions only happen once. Don’t waste your moment.

In Etiquettes and Manners Plain and Simple, Dr. Jackie F. Whitehead helps you prepare to be the best you can be with a look at etiquettes and manners and how they can be powerful tools for advancement in all areas of life. Her tips cover a wealth of occasions, situations, and goals:

everyday life phones and texting dining and eating academic and business success invitations and RSVPs travel shopping being a house guest staying at a hotel being part of a group social success

Etiquettes and manners are well worth learning, and the basics never change. Once learned in youth, these principles will guide you into an adulthood built on respect for others, personal confidence, and the respect of your peers. Dr. Whitehead’s advice can help you stand out in the crowd. Etiquettes and Manners Plain and Simple is a lifelong reference for gaining and refreshing social skills that lead to success now and in the future.


The Good Egg by Jory John and Pete Oswald

Meet the good egg. He’s a verrrrrry good egg indeed.

But trying to be so good is hard when everyone else is plain ol’ rotten.

As the other eggs in the dozen behave badly, the good egg starts to crack from all the pressure of feeling like he has to be perfect.

So, he decides enough is enough! It’s time for him to make a change…

Dynamic duo Jory John and Pete Oswald hatch a funny and charming story that reminds us of the importance of balance, self-care, and accepting those we love (even if they are sometimes a bit rotten).

Perfect for reading aloud and shared story time!

Higher Etiquette: A Guide to the World of Cannabis, from Dispensaries to Dinner Parties by Lizzie Post

As we enter the dawn of a new “post-prohibition” era, the stigma surrounding cannabis use is fading, and the conversation about what it means to get high is changing. When it comes to being a respectful, thoughtful, and responsible consumer of pot, there is a lot you need to know. In Higher Etiquette, Lizzie Post–great-great granddaughter of Emily Post and co-president of America’s most respected etiquette brand–explores and celebrates the wide world of legalized weed. Combining cannabis culture’s long-established norms with the Emily Post Institute’s tried-and-true principles, this book covers the social issues surrounding pot today, such as:

  •  How to bring it to a dinner party or give it as a gift
  •  Why eating it is different from inhaling it
  •  How to respectfully use it as a guest
  •  Why different strains affect you in different ways
  •  How to be behave at a dispensary
  •  How to tackle pot faux pas such as “canoed” joints and “lawn-mowed” bowls

The Gentleman's Book of Etiquette and Manual of Politeness by Cecil B. Hartley

Ever wondered what to do in polite society if you find an insect in your food? Or how a gentleman should ask a lady to dance? And what on earth is the etiquette for smoking cigars? First published in 1860, this classic guide to gentlemanly behavior is a veritable mine of information and indispensable advice for aspiring gentlemen. No matter if a man finds himself at home, in the street, or in a place of amusement, he has but to leaf through this book to learn how best to behave, and indeed how not to behave. And if he can find time between his numerous invitations to balls and hunting parties, he could benefit from a perusal of the sections on gentlemanly deportment and conversational technique. Not forgetting, of course, the all-important advice on how to treat ladies, surely an integral part of any true gentleman’s training.

A Kids' Guide to Manners: 50 Fun Etiquette Lessons for Kids (and Their Families) by Katherine Flannery

Useful manners to feel capable and confident in any situation―for kids ages 7 to 12

Today’s kids need a fresh approach to manners that resonates with them. A Kids’ Guide to Manners goes beyond saying “please” and “thank you” with fun, practical lessons that bring manners into the modern world.

From meeting new people to being a courteous guest to texting a group of friends, kids will have fun as they learn to use manners in a way that will make their lives easier and more enjoyable. With 50 essential manners, plus interactive quizzes, entertaining examples, and at-home practice exercises, A Kids’ Guide to Manners teaches kids where, when, and how to use manners as they relate to everyday life.

With this true manners how-to guide kids will:

  • Build good communication skills that will make it easy to get along with others, such as constructive ways to express emotions to the power of writing a thank you note.
  • Feel confident in new situations by knowing what to do and say when meeting new people, dining in a more formal environment, or dealing with conflict and gossip.
  • Learn proper tech etiquette that represents their best self over text, email, social media, as well as tips for knowing when it is or isn’t appropriate to be using technology.

Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette by Anna Post , Lizzie Post

Emily Post’s Wedding Etiquette is the classic indispensable, comprehensive guide to creating the wedding of your dream, now in its sixth edition.

Today’s weddings are more complicated than ever, with new traditions replacing old, and new relationships to consider as family life grows more complex. Emily Post’s Wedding Etiquette has everything a bride will ever need to know to have the perfect wedding.

Anna Post guides brides and their friends and family through weddings to maximize fun and reduce stress, including:

  • How to handle awkward family situations
  • How to address envelopes and word invitations
  • How to choose an officiant
  • How to blend family traditions
  • The timeline of events throughout the engagement and during the wedding
  • Who to include on your guest list
  • How to use technology to your advantage

The Ladies' Book of Etiquette and Manual of Politeness by Florence Hartley

What should you do if you notice a stranger’s dress is tucked up at the back? What are you meant to say if you are offered food you don’t like at a dinner party? And what ought you to wear if you’re invited to a ball? If these questions baffle you, fear not, for help is at hand with this beautiful, nostalgic guide. You don’t need to live in the 19th century to agree that it is rude to finish someone else’s jokes. Whatever the situation, you’d would like to know how to be as ladylike as possible when seasick or the best color schemes for bridesmaids’ dresses, this thorough and wide-ranging book will provide sensible and succinct guidance, as well as shed light into life in the 19th century. Did you know that you could spot a lady who had laced her corset too tightly from the lack of circulation making her nose go red? This beautiful guide also contains sections on how to behave at a hotel, conduct in the street, letter writing, and table etiquette.